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Surfers and relationships - 2008/06/28 02:57 One look at my wanna surf profile page and you would see I surf everywhere I can small waves big gnarly waves sharky waves crowed localized I just love getting shacked and smackin the lip.

One thing I noticed over the years is how much I make friends when I am not surfing and how few I make when I am in the zone.

I like people and being one of those guys that divorced in his lifetime I have to go out and meet a new girlfriend every now and again.

Which led me to thinking do I want a girlfriend who surfs ?

Lately It's been an issue because I find I spend more of my life just living to surf and less thinking about what might happen in the future.

In the past I did alot of rockclimbing all over the united states and had girlfriends that I rockclimbed with and for some of the time traveled lived with and climbed with.
this was not always the best thing.And since I have been spending more time lately thinking about who that next woman may be
as well as thinking about how serious I am now about surfing like when I was serious about climbing I might try asking.

I think it can be a very good thing sometimes you celebrate more for different reasons and it's nice to be with someone that wants there body strong.But I remember bad sides to this issue like Envy and sometimes you put more into your sport than the person your with then "pow "You get intamacy issue none of this is good but as long as all works out or ends well its all good I say but what the fuck do I know?
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Re:Surfers and relationships - 2008/08/15 06:31 Like most things...it's specific to the individual. I once dated a girl that was/is as enthusiatic about surfing as i am. it worked out great for awhile... and then you find out that it's the only connection you have, tuff call man, plus everyone needs there apart/alone time. i have the perfect setup now, i have a girl that i connect with on alot of levels, she loves going to the beach with me, camping at surf spots... but has absolutely no interest in surfing but totally excepts my addiction, like when i get up in the wee hours of the morning to sneek out for a session while she sleeps in. on days off i just pack her and the dog in our vw van, head out to some break, set her up on the beach with whatever she needs, then go surfing all day... and not once in our 4 years of dating have i ever heard her say "all you want to do is surf".
Cheers,
Life Great
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Re:Surfers and relationships - 2008/08/15 20:52 Right, nsbigfeet!
All those friends of mine who surf (or practice some other kind of sport) have no problems at all with their relationships. My wife is a bookworm. She can read 24 hours a day when I'm out (to be honest,I can't surf that long). If the day is not long enough to read all books, she packs the night at that. Sometimes when reading an enchaining novel, and I come back after 2 hours surfing, she's wondering: "You get back early! Is it flat?"
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Re:Surfers and relationships - 2008/08/20 14:46 Levittation,

it's funny that you brought this up. I can totally relate to what nsbigfeet said because I happen to be in the same boat (so to speak). But now you got me wondering about this. i'm dating this girl right now & surfing seems like the only connection we got?!? hmmph?!?!?

It is a tough call for the both of us. Now what do "I" do??? See where it goes & perhaps will have more connections down the road or just be friends? I seriously don't want a girl that will say, "all you want to do is surf!"
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Re:Surfers and relationships - 2008/08/23 13:36 hey mates....i`m a 37 year old arried with kids, so i know what i`m talking about...when you have the "right" one, everything will come by itself...she gives me enough time for surfing, trips, snowboarding, etc. and i try not to "steal" too much time from kids and family...the best ever happened to me is seeing my son starting to surf snowboard, etc!!!my wife understands all this and it is really realxed!!
so, i wish you guys the same relationship luck as i had!!!
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Re:Surfers and relationships - 2008/08/28 17:40 I can say that surfing has played a major role in my relationships. I often choose surfing over hanging out with my lady and her friends or doing something she wants me to do when the surf is up. It has created some friction and I must always make up for it. Keep in mind I live in Hawaii so there's lots of surf and I won't miss a swell. She accepts that I surf and knows that I will not change and have always been this way. I know I milk it sometimes and stay out way to long, show up late for dates and other things but if you are a real surfer it will affect all aspects of your life in some ways if you let it. I've lost jobs because of surfing, done poorly in school because of surfing, gone broke because of surfing, but it's all part of the sacrifice, maybe not for some, but for me anyways. I've just accepted this fact. I have bought countless amounts of flowers for my lady after many an ovetime session. Otherwise the relationship has been good but the surfing problem does arise now and then. When I tried to set her up on the beach she always said I was out too long and she often doesn't like the beaches I surf, too reefy, homeless people, no bathroom etc. The best solution I've come up with is scheduling in advance. I will look at the charts and try to determine which days are best to surf so we can work it out to avoid a problem. In the past I had a girl I met surfing and I surfed with her quite a bit cuz she was pretty good. We never had a conflict and I was really stoked on her but she just left one day. Maybe surfing (and sex!) was our only connection. Sometimes I think it might be easier to find a girl who surfs but I don't think it matters as much as an all around chemistry. I often can't even get some of my friends to surf with me due to schedules. My best surfing friends are usually already out there and that's who I relate to the most when it comes to surfing. I guess my point here is that surfing hardcore can cause all kinds of conflicts in your life when you choose to surf over responsibilities. I remember my mom calling me out of the pipeline lineup and making me go back to school. Sometimes conflicts are good cuz it keeps things in balance, life can't be all good with no bad, just like surfing, sometimes you eat it. Such is life. I guess only a surfer knows the feeling and if your girl's cool with that then amen. too much bla bla bla
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